Conflict and Comfort

Comfort, comfort my people,
    says your God. (Isaiah 40:1 NIV)

“How easy, but untrue, to tell ourselves the rest of the world is experiencing the perfect holiday, and we’re alone in conflict.” (Melody Beattie, The Language of Letting Go)

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Conflict and comfort. Two seemingly disparate concepts, yet Christmas is full of both. Even the birth of the baby Jesus evokes conflict, as well as comfort, if we are honest. Comfort in knowing that a Savior is born. Conflict in explaining this disruption of God into history. To accept it as miracle or to dissect it to prove the truth?

Constant conflict surrounds me and you, and surfaces in our hearts, when really all we desire is comfort.

Let’s see if we can deconstruct these two words for a little clarity.

Con+Flict=With+To Strike. A conflict causes us to strike out either mentally, emotionally or physically with someone else, or even with ourselves. Two opposing ideas sparring for first place in our heart.

Yet, conflict is necessary for growth, for understanding and for belief. If everything made sense, I would have no questions. No need to be on a quest for comfort and contentment. Conflict makes me aware of my need. Conflict gives our story its motivation.

Com+Fort=With+Strong. God knows we need comfort, hope and strength. He instructs Isaiah to comfort His people. He says it twice for emphasis, knowing that we are in constant need of reassurance.

It is easy to lie to ourselves. I speak collectively because it is so easy to imagine that we are alone. To cling to the false idea that everyone else is having a better time than us. We will experience conflict. We can assure each other with comfort. Be confident of this: God is WITH us and FOR us.

I leave you with some musings about Jesus’ family and life:

 

the holy family,
frightened and fierce:
did they ever have fun
or fight?

was Jesus their
son alone?
there is record
of brothers and sisters
who question and cajol,
doubt and ridicule him

to lose your son to
capital punishment
at age 33, even if it
was part of God’s plan
doesn’t really diminish
the loss, the pain

what a surprise
when she hears reports
that her son who was
tortured and died,
is now alive

a shock?
hard to believe?
when did she first see him
alive? did she rush to him
with a mother’s love? did she
cry when he left again?

a fiery wind courses
through her heart
when she hears tongues
speaking in many languages
pouring forth the wonders
of God, the very same wonder
she held in her womb and
arms, once in time

Christmas is Over?

Jesus, undeterred, went right ahead and gave his charge: “God authorized and commanded me to commission you: Go out and train everyone you meet, far and near, in this way of life, marking them by baptism in the threefold name: Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. Then instruct them in the practice of all I have commanded you. I’ll be with you as you do this, day after day after day, right up to the end of the age.”

(Matthew 28:18-20 The Message)

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This is one of my favorite photos from Christmas 2012. The wrapping paper announces the abundance of thought, love and expense that went into creating this special moment.

Yesterday, we were talking to my sister and her family in New Jersey, and she posed this question: “What I want to know is how we can do all the shopping and all the wrapping and then in 30 minutes it’s over?”

And we all laughed. And I tried to come up with some wisdom about the magic being in the wrapping and unwrapping of the presents.

And today the trimmings of Christmas still adorn our home, but the anticipation is gone. The gifts are tucked away for now. But Christmas is not over; it’s just beginning.

According to the liturgical calendar, Advent was ushered out with our festive feasting on Christmas day. And now we are in the season of Christmas, a time to reflect on the joy of His salvation.

In the past, I often fell into a funk on the second day of Christmas. But now I look forward to finding ways to keep the celebration alive. To devote time to thinking about the Christ Child and what the new year may bring.

I can give in to the despair of the winter doldrums or I can look for the potential and promise of new birth. I can receive the joy and happiness that God offers each day, if only I would attend to and anticipate it, like I do on Christmas morning.

In The Liturgical YearJoan Chittister wrote a chapter about joy, subtitled “The Essence of It All.” The essence of the Christmas season is the joy found in relationship with God. I can contemplate who the newborn baby is and what His birth means in history and now.

Joan Chittister equates happiness with this “journey to the joy” that marks the entire liturgical year.

“Happiness does not require choice some of the time. Happiness requires choice all of the time. It requires learning to choose between what is real and what is fleeting, what is worthless and what is worthwhile. But that does not make the effort either impossible or unacceptable. It simply requires discrimination.”

When the winter blues come knocking on my door, and they will, I have choices. I can choose to invite them in and have a good old-fashioned pity party. Or I can send them on their way, and instead invite the Spirit of Christmas to infuse my life with the abundance of hope, peace, love and joy that He offers everyday! The presents may be long forgotten, but His Presence abides. And don’t dismiss the presents, they can be tangible reminders of His grace, as well as the relationships that exist between the giver and the receiver.

Merry Second Day of Christmas!

Merry Christmas

Because of and through the heart of tender mercy and loving-kindness of our God, a Light from on high will dawn upon us and visit [us].

To shine upon and give light to those who sit in darkness and in the shadow of death, to direct and guide our feet in a straight line into the way of peace. (Luke 1:78-79 AMP)

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Mighty
Eternal
Redeemer and
Restorer of our
Yearning Hearts–

Come again;
Hear our cry.
Renew our spirits;
Inspire devotion.
Send your heavenly dove
To fill our hearts, souls and
Minds with
A fresh and deep
Sanctifying dose of your LOVE!

Again: Once More

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Jesus replied, “I tell you the truth, unless you are born again, you cannot see the Kingdom of God.”

John 3:3 NLT

Most adventures promise mystery and intrigue. As we enter this Advent{ure}, I wonder as I wander through the Scriptures, the Advent devotions and even my surroundings. I wonder where will this season take us? What does God have in store for each day? Today a word comes to mind: AGAIN.

Once more God speaks to me through a word. I often chaff against the again-ness of life. Why do I have to decide again whether or not it’s worth the effort to decorate the house for Christmas? Will I get out every collected item to honor the past? Will I gripe about preparing the artificial tree for the ornaments? Should I even put up the tree? These may seem like trivial questions, yet they surface and the decisions loom before me.

As I turn over the word “again” in my mind, I notice it holds two words: a and gain. Will I see the traditions and the pleasures of the season as a gain? What do I gain from taking the time to decide what I want to do with decorations this year? Taking the time reveals that it’s okay to leave some of the traditions behind this year.

What I really want is to prepare an atmosphere in my home and in my heart to enjoy God’s presence. To enjoy each other’s company. To have our home open for friends and family to stop by without concern. I choose to keep it simple. I will decide about the tree later.

As I pause, after preparing our home for Christmas, I thank God again for showing me that the spiritual trumps the sentimental. He delights in my desire to create time and space for His presence. Once more, I marvel that God chose to create room in Mary’s womb to take on flesh. To be born among us, so that we could be born again.

I leave you with the words from the aria duet in Bach’s Christmas Oratorio, Part III:

Lord, Your compassion, Your mercy

comforts us and sets us free.

Your gracious favor and love,

Your impulses,

make Your fatherly faithfulness

again new.

(Johann Sebastian Bach)